My favourite people
“Some people make your laugh a little louder, your smile a little brighter and your life a little better.”
One of my favourite things that I have come across is this islamic point of view on soulmates.
Nabi ﷺ mentioned in a hadeeth (something to the effect) that those souls who knew each other in the realm of souls (alim e arwah) would find and know each other in this world too, and those who developed animosity in that realm would dislike each other here as well.
And that’s why, when you meet certain people, you’re suddenly overcome with a feeling that you know them from somewhere or that you’ve met them before. And maybe this also accounts for those moments when your heart misses someone you’ve never met, because your soul is yearning for those other souls and waiting for them to show up in your life here in this world. \\
I think this applies to everyone in our lives. It explains why sometimes when you meet someone, you click with them, you feel comfortable with them and it feels like you’ve known them your entire life. These are the best kind of people. The ones who you can talk to for hours and it feels like minutes, the ones you laugh with until your stomach hurts, the ones you can go from talking about your favourite book to discussing how you’re going to bring up your children, the ones who understand your silence and the ones who share the same values and beliefs that you do.
My favourite people are so very different from me. They’re loud, I am too but only if I’m comfortable with you. They’re funny, I am too but very few appreciate my sense of humour. They’re adventurous and unafraid to do new things, I always need a push out of my comfort zone. They’re team Damon Salvatore and I’ll always choose sweet Stefan. They eat lemon and herb from Nando’s and I’ll eat hot. Basically, in everything we do, we’re opposite. Yet, no matter how far we gravitate from each other, we always end up napping together after a long day of missioning.
In the last three years, my life has changed a lot. School ended and university started. A whole new chapter of my life began and a new version of myself was born. I think the best thing someone can say to you is that you’ve changed. Like yes! Also, you didn’t expect me to be the same person who sat next to you in Business Studies right? I mean, I do economics now.
I have always thought that quality > quantity. I want to only surround myself with genuine people, people with no pretences, unfiltered, people who understand the kind of person that I am and help me to become a better person, people who make me happy because by no means am I perfect, but I am always genuine.
When you spend time with someone you’re either reminded of all the reasons why you like them or all the reasons why you don’t like them. Recently, I’ve been reminded of all the reasons why I like them. And it comes down to a few things:
- The laughter, some people really make you laugh so much that your stomach hurts.
- The feeling of your heart being full, do you ever look at someone or think of them and your heart just swells with love for them? It’s the simplest things that make your heart burst, a text saying “I thought of you” or knowing your order when you go out for coffee.
- How unfiltered I become, I love the fact that around certain people I can just be me, completely unfiltered.
This post is in appreciation for my friends. The ones who I’ve never known for years and who probably know me better than I know myself, the ones who have become family, the ones I’ve only known since campus started and now, I can’t imagine my life without them, the ones I can sing with at the top of my voice in the car, the ones who remind me of who I am when I forget, the ones who I barely see but when I do, nothing’s changed, the ones who make me feel complete and the ones who believe in me when I don’t believe in myself.