C H A N G E .
There’s a lot of unspoken pressure to keep liking the things you used to like and to keep dressing the way you’ve always dressed and to never question what you believe in and basically “be yourself” has slowly morphed into “be what everyone knows you as” but trust me when I say if you just give it up and simply make decisions and take actions based purely on what would make you happy, you’ll gain a very comforting sense of self peace.
Looking back at who I was two years ago and seeing who I am now, I know that I’m two completely different people.
I watched the last episode of the Big Bang Theory and something Penny said got me thinking. “So I guess the only thing that actually stays the same is that things are always changing.” Change is something that everyone is so scared of but it is inevitable. It’s the one constant in life: that things will always change.
I think we were really thrown in the deep end when we had to choose our careers in school. We went from having to lift up our hand to ask to go the bathroom to having to make a decision that will determine the decisions we make for the rest of our lives. Decisions like what kind of house we’ll have, what school we’ll send our kids to and whether we’ll spend the December holidays in Dubai or Durban or any where at all for that matter.
Recently, I made a pretty big decision. I chose to let go of something that I thought I wanted for the longest time. It was a big part of who I was as a person and everyone close to me was pretty shocked that I decided to let it go. But you see, my priorities have changed and I realised that I was not prepared to give up one kind of life for another.
I’ve realised that you can never make everyone happy. If you’re too thin, people will ask you why don’t you eat. If you’re too fat, people will ask you why you eat so much. If you’re fair, they’ll have something to say and if you’re not fair, they’ll also have something to say. If you study accounting, they’ll say teaching is “better for a girl” but if you study teaching, they’ll say you should’ve done something else because the pay isn’t worth it. If you have a boyfriend, they’ll say you’re making haraam and if you don’t have a boyfriend they’ll ask you how you’re going to get married. The point is, people will always have something to say but honestly, you don’t have to listen to them. I firmly believe that if you do things solely to make Allah Ta’alah happy, you will be rewarded for it because “Is the reward for good anything but good? ~ Surah Rahmaan 55:60. At the end of the day, all people will say is Innalillahi wa Inna Ilayhi Rajioon.
If you want to change your life, I leave you with these two pieces of advice from twitter:
If you do these for 30 days, you will be unrecognisable
- Sleep 8+ hours
- Drink 2 litres of water a day
- Get sun daily
- No sugar
- Read for 30 minutes a day
- Work out three times a week
- Eat fruit and vegetables daily
If you can’t pray in that outfit, don’t wear it.
If you wouldn’t want to die in that place, don’t go to it.
If you wouldn’t want those to be your last words, don’t say it.
If you wouldn’t want to be resurrected doing that action, don’t do it.