Beautiful, just the way you are
I want you to answer this question: What do you love most about the people you love?
What do you love most about your mom, your best friend or your little cousin? Does the thing you love most about them have anything to do with their physical appearance? Or does it have to do with the fact that they know exactly the right advice to give you? Does it have to do with the fact that they know the exact moment when to make you laugh or the exact moment that you need a hug?
The things we love most about the people we love never have anything to do with the way they look. It always has to do with the way that they make you feel. The way their eyes light up when they speak about something they’re passionate about. The fact that they always make sure that you’re in your home safely before they drive off. The fact that they know your coffee order or what flavour you like in Mochachos or your shoe size or whether you prefer winter to summer.
So, this blog post is not just for me. This blog post is for my sister, my friends, my little cousins and even my mom, grandmother and aunts.
There are so many “beauty standards” that society has placed on us that we’re constantly worrying about the way we look. There’s pressure to lose weight and gain weight, there’s pressure to wear make up (because clearly no one should see any blemishes on your face), then there’s also pressure to not wear make up. When will people understand that when a woman wears make up, it’s for herself and no one else? There’s pressure to wear hijab but when you do wear one, you get asked “why?”
Listen to me girls.
You are beautiful. You are amazing. Every single part of you has been perfectly curated by the Supreme Being to make you, you. You do not have to conform by any standard society has placed on you. Your hair is perfect. You look beautiful with a scarf on. The colour of your skin compliments the colour of your eyes. Your nose is not too big and neither is it too small, it fits perfectly into your face. Your height is perfect because sometimes dynamite comes in small packages and if you’re really tall, well, you don’t ever have to ask anyone to get you a jar from the top shelf.
I always tell myself “you’re only allowed to be insecure about things you can’t change.” Something that people make me feel insecure about, is my height. Nothing infuriates me more. I genuinely don’t have any issues with it and if I really want to feel taller, I have many heels that I can choose from. For you, it might be something else but I want you to embrace it. I know that it’s easier said than done but when you embrace all that you are, you don’t give people a chance to doubt you.
I need you to remind yourself every single day that you’re enough. Because you are. I read this and it resonated within me.
There’s always going to be someone who doesn’t see your worth. Don’t let it be you.